author and what has been learned

How Did I Get Here?

I never thought I’d grow up to be an IT professional working at the largest privately held company in the world. My opportunities were few even if I knew how to take advantage of them. I didn’t

My parents divorced so we moved out of our mobile home into a one bedroom house in our small town in Michigan. I hated that crappy little house. I had to go through my sister’s room just to get to my room and my mom slept on the couch. I found out later that was originally built as a dog kennel so I consider those my “dog days.”

I remember riding my bike to the gas station to buy milk with food stamps. I played like a Buddhist monk that nobody I knew would see me. We also somehow got involved in the seedy underground of buying food stamps with cash. We needed the food stamps and they needed the cigarettes and booze. Fair trade.

My high school jobs were milking cows and slinging tacos at Taco Bell. Since I could only work 18 hour a week total, the farmer paid me cash on the down low. You may of guessed that my mom couldn’t support me so I paid for my school lunches, athletic equipment, underoos, etc… I tried to hang onto the cash I was earning and even sat in the car while my family ate at Burger King because I didn’t want to pay for my own meal. Unfortunately my mom would “borrow” money out of my savings account.

Where I’m Going

I’d like to tell you that growing up like this built character and made me who I am today…but that would be a lie. It’s a place that I don’t want to go back to but it’s not what has driven me forward. I learned that what I expect of myself is more powerful that what others expected of me. My story isn’t unique and that’s the exact reason I share it. It only seemed like I didn’t have any opportunities growing up but the opportunities were there I just couldn’t see them.

Common advice tells you to “take control of your life.” The thing is… you’re already in control of your life because your life is a product of your decisions. The realization that intrinsic factors are so much more powerful than extrinsic factors was the epiphany that changed my life.

You’re in control!

Start reading about my journey here.

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