From welfare to well-being. If you had told me 15 years ago that I’d grow up to be an IT professional working at the largest privately held company in the world, I’d have thought you were nuts. I had no opportunities and nothing was expected of me.
After my parents divorced I moved with my mother and sister from our mobile home on 8 acres to a one bedroom house in our small town in Michigan. I absolutely hated that little house and found out some time after we moved in that it had originally been built as a dog kennel but converted into a house. We were on government assistance at the time and I remember riding my bike to the gas station to buy milk with food stamps. All the way there I would pray that nobody I knew would see me pay. We also somehow got involved in the seedy underground of buying food stamps for cash so that the recipient could buy booze or cigarettes.
At 15 years old I started milking cows and slinging tacos at Taco Bell. By law I could only work 18 hour a week but I got around this by having the farmer pay me under the table while I got my 18 hours in at Taco Bell so I could earn more. My parents weren’t supporting me financially so I was responsible for my school lunches, athletic equipment, clothes, etc… I even remember a time when I sat in the car while my family ate at Burger King because I didn’t want to pay for my own meal. Other times my mom would “borrow” money out of my savings account.
I’d like to tell you that growing up like this built character and made me who I am today…but that would be a lie. Yes, it gave me memories of a place that I never want to go back to. But something greater drove me forward. I learned that what I expect of myself is more powerful that what others expected of me.
I know that my story isn’t unique and that’s the exact reason I share it.
It only seemed like I didn’t have any opportunities growing up but the opportunities were there I just couldn’t see them.
Motivational speakers and posters encourage you to take control of your life. The thing is… you’re already in control of your life because your life is a product of your decisions. You are not a victim of your circumstances so stop making excuses.
The realization that intrinsic factors are so much more powerful than extrinsic factors was the epiphany that changed my life.
If your life sucks then start making better decisions! There is a blueprint for success and I want to share it with you!
Start reading here.